Susan visits her daughter’s grave every day. At night, she dreams of her screaming for help

A weary Susan Iramiyan visits her daughter’s grave every day.

She battles on despite the pain she and her family live with years on from the April 2021 murder of her firstborn child, Maryam Hamka.

Iramiyan at least now has a place to visit her daughter. For two years, 36-year-old Hamka lay in a shallow bush grave on the Mornington Peninsula until her killer, Toby Loughnane, finally gave up the burial site.

“Two long years we waited to bring her home to us, where she’s meant to be,” Iramiyan said. “I would never wish it upon anyone.

“Every day I think about the pain and suffering my daughter went through, and it shatters my heart all over again.”

On Friday, security directed Hamka’s family to sit separately from 44-year-old Loughnane and his supporters in the Victorian Supreme Court after a jury found him guilty of murdering his partner during a relationship marred by violence.

In a victim impact statement read out by the prosecution, Iramiyan said she was haunted by dreams of her daughter asking for help and screaming.

“April 21 [2021] changed my life in so many ways, words can’t even describe it. It’s broken myself and my family,” Iramiyan said.

“Maryam’s loss has devastated me. I visit her grave daily. No parent should have to bury a child.

“She was full of love and had so much love and joy for everyone and everything. She made me a mother.”

Ayman Hamka told the court his sister was his best friend, and she had been taken from the family due to senseless violence.

“The simple joys we once shared together … are replaced with extreme emptiness that cannot be filled,” he said.

“I always ask myself the same question, why would a human being put someone through so much pain and misery?

“I miss her every moment of every day. I will always and forever love you my dearest Maryam.”

Hamka was last seen alive on CCTV leaving a Brunswick Woolworths store on April 10, 2021. Her family reported her missing five days later.

On Friday, Crown prosector Kristie Churchill said the pair had been in a brief romantic relationship, characterised by control, violence and abuse.

Loughnane violently assaulted Hamka at his Brighton home then sought to cover up his involvement in her murder using “extreme and drastic measures”.

“In a drug-fuelled fit of rage, he caused her a violent death,” Churchill said.

“Motivated by self-preservation, he’s driven to a remote location and ultimately buried her, then sought to deflect blame.

“He’d been an abusive and violent partner to other females in the past. A repeat perpetrator of domestic violence.”

She said prosecutors were calling for a substantial sentence but not life in jail.

Loughnane had offered to plead guilty to negligent manslaughter, which prosecutors rejected.

Instead, he pleaded not guilty to murder, claiming Hamka died from a drug overdose and that he panicked and disposed of her body. He also claimed her skull fractures were caused when dragging her body through the bush, and not during a violent assault.

Defence barrister Daniel Sala said his client, a former construction worker, grew up in a loving and supportive home but that when his father died when Loughnane was aged 12, he descended into drug use.

Methamphetamine became an entrenched part of his life until Hamka’s death.

Loughnane will be sentenced next month.

If you or anyone you know needs support, you can contact the National Sexual Assault, Domestic and Family Violence Counselling Service on 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732), Lifeline 131 114, or Beyond Blue 1300 224 636.